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Already slipping on your New Year’s resolutions? Use ‘Being’ instead of Willpower!

Most people set New Year’s resolutions with the real intention to achieve them, and then life gets in the way. Sadly, research has shown 70% of us never achieve our resolutions.

Other things take priority, at work, at home, or we experience blocks, don’t how to start or to maintain your motivation, or we just do not feel in the right frame of energy to get going. Whatever it is, we are left feeling disappointed in ourselves, less than and our self-esteem suffers.

And, it does not have to be like that.

There are some very easy ways to help you keep up motivation, focus on your resolutions every day without effort and find creative ways to overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles.

Over the next few weeks I will be sharing some easy and fun to use techniques that will help you make achieving your intentions part of your day every day. And don’t worry, you do not need to find that extra 1 + hour a day for these.

So here it comes:

Hot Tip: Pick a daily State of Being

July 2012 002Although it does not sound like much, it is surprisingly effective. Every evening before you go to bed, or when you get up in the morning do the following:

Think of the resolution that most important to you, and ask yourself:

  • what quality or state of being does that resolution embody for me?
  • what qualities will I gain or enhance when I have achieved this resolution?

Examples might be: flow, confidence, fun, energy, being a magnet, clarity, openness, glamour, elegance ….

Choose whatever quality, state or symbol comes to mind for you. It can even be a colour, a texture or an image that means something to you.

Take 1-2 minutes to really deepen into the quality, breathe in the quality,  really get to know this quality….you have chosen for the day. Allow that quality to infuse you, to resonate with you, to embace you ….

  • what is it like to be that quality?
  • how are you when you are that quality?
  • what happens in your body when you inhale, invoke and resonate that quality?

Write (or draw) your chosen quality of being down on a piece of paper, and carry it around with you all day. And throughout the day, whatever you do, be that quality. You will find, before long, you are actually doing activities that progress your resolutions without you having schedule time or push yourself to take the next steps.

Make it fun!

I recognise that sometimes going it alone can be difficult. Therefore I have decided to give you a special coaching offer for January and February. To check this out click here.  

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Preparing for a stress free festive season

In many cultures November and especially December, when the weather gets colder and the days shorter, used to be a dedicated period of stillness, contemplation and connecting in with oneself.   In most western countries, now, the run up to the holidays can often be one of the most stressful time of the year. Rushing from shop to shop finding and buying presents, finishing off work projects and putting in extra hours to get everything done in time, sorting out where and how to spend the holidays and even anticipating family conflicts or challenges over the holidays can bring additional stresses and anxieties into our lives. Now is the time to start preparing for a stress-free (or low stress) festive season.

Stress-free can be planned

In times of ‘Busyness’ a lot of us tend to go into headless chicken syndrome, just doing, doing, doing, rushing round to get stuff done. Whilst this is a strategy, it is not necessarily an effective one as it causes us stress. Although for most of us it seems counter-intuitive to take a little time out to take a few deep breaths, take stock and plan, it actually makes more effective rather than less. Allow yourself the gift of a quiet 10-15 minutes today to prepare for an enjoyable festive season. And, here are some tips on how to make your preparation even more effective.

1. Connecting in with yourself

When we make plans we often forget to set intentions and state what we truly want. Connecting in with yourself…

… what are your intentions for the festive season?

… what do you want the festive period to be like for you?

Ideally write down your answers, that makes them much more powerful. And remember to keep all your intentions and wants in positive and present tense language.

2. Gain focus 

We often loose touch with truly important when we go into autopilot using the same strategies and habits honed to perfection season by season. So ask yourself …

… what is truly important in this 2012 festive season?

…. what would make this festive season truly effortless and enjoyable?

… how can let go of what is not important/what stressed you?

3. Make your plans

Now that you have a good idea of want you want and what to focus on, you are ready to plan.

…. what do you need to do by when?

…. what can you do and how can you be every day to keep your intentions alive?

…. who do you need to sign up to your intentions or create shared intentions with?

Sharing this planning process with your partner, friends or family makes more powerful.

Our Gift to you

To help you reduce stress and to honour the festive season, I want to give you the gift of a free meditation call, my friend Nyali and I  are offering on 2nd December 2012 at 18:00 GMT. To find our more and to join us, click here. Feel free to forward this invitation to anyone who you feel would benefit from it. Everyone is very welcome.

I look forward to connecting with you on 2nd December.

Lots of love Bettina