How often do you celebrate your achievements, milestones on the way to your goal or your successes?
And I do not mean, just your big achievements like a promotion or getting a new job. I mean the little milestones without which you would not be able to achieve the big goals. Things like finishing a piece of work quicker than you thought, making that next sale, doing something different during your work day, spending time on your self-care or completing one action of your action list!
You might question why one would celebrate these ‘small’ things? My answer to you is, most women take ourselves and our achievements for much too granted. What most women tend to do, and in fact most workplaces also have this culture, is to highlight when things go wrong and are not quite up to standard but to take things going well for granted. This creates an imbalance and overemphasises the negatives whilst devaluing what we do well.
Celebrating success redresses this balance. At the same time it is a great way to raise and/or maintain your confidence and self-esteem level.
If you had to pick one thing this week to celebrate, what would that be?
This is important. I invite you to review your week and identify at least one activity or small goal that you can celebrate this week. Once you have this one (or more) celebration worthy goal, create a celebration for it. This might be going for lunch with a friend instead of eating it at your desk, it might be treating yourself to a spa session, taking a walk in the park or listening to your favourite piece of music. Other women like to imagine a stepping out of a car onto a red carpet and all the people around her clapping and hugging her. Pick a celebration that works for you! Make it fun!
Once you have done one celebration, make it a regular activity in your life. You will soon experience a different in your levels of self-esteem and of self-appreciation.
What do you appreciate about yourself?
A lot of women tend to downplay our achievements and strengths. This does not necessarily mean that they are not confident in their abilities. It is often a sign that we take ourselves for granted. If you take yourself for granted, guess how other people will perceive you? They will also take you and your abilities for granted.
Take some time, and make a list of appreciation. Really go into yourself and write down all the things you appreciate about yourself. Once you have run out of ideas, write down what your friends, colleagues, partner etc. appreciate about yourself. Regularly review this list and add to it. One of my clients has created a picture with all the things she appreciates about herself and has hung this in her office (she works from home) so she can see it every day and whenever she thinks of another thing she appreciates about herself she adds it.
Other clients find it useful to keep a daily or weekly appreciation or gratitude list where they record the 5 or 10 things that they appreciate about themselves today and the 5 to 10 things they are grateful for today. It helps us to remember the great things of our day or week instead of mulling over that one embarrassing or annoying mistake we made! It is good idea to do this before you go to bed so you go to bed with positive thoughts rather than negative ones. It might even improve your sleep.
I invite you to make celebrating and appreciating yourself part of your daily experience! Try different things and find out what works best for you.
And notice how your world begins to change.
Feel free to share your experiences in this blog.