The Oxford English Dictionary defines success as the “accomplishment of an aim or a purpose”. According to this definition, you are successful when you have achieved the outcomes, goals and targets you set yourself. These can be very different for each of us. Success can take many different forms for women, whether it is becoming a leader in her field, being a great mum, raising a family and making sure her children have everything they need to develop, winning medals in sport contests, caring for others or just being the best she can be.
Whatever your definition success it will be very personal to you and will reflect your unique qualities and gifts.
So what is your definition of success? What do you want to achieve in the next few months, this year, in the next three years, your life? I also invite you to review how your New Year’s resolutions (if you made any of those at the beginning of this year) in the light of your answers to these questions and check how these fit in with your definition of success. Some people find it helpful to journal answers to these questions as it helps them to check back on progress, jog their memory and/or become more focussed. If you are not used to keeping a journal, have a go and find out if it works for you.
How much of ‘your ‘definition of success is your own? And, how much of it is based on what other people view as successful? Part or all of our definition of success is often influenced by parents, friends, teachers, the culture we grew up in or people we adopted as role models. I have known a lot of women who struggled to achieve the level of success they wanted without realising that part of their definition of success was, in fact, not theirs. They had subconsciously adopted other people’s views of what their goals should be and found themselves in constant conflict between what wanted deep down and what they thought they had to achieve. If you find it difficult to answer these questions, you might like to think about how the different people in your life define success and map this to your views.
How do you talk or think about what you want to achieve? If you find yourself using a lot of shoulds, have tos, need tos, ought tos, musts or using a lot of reasons why you were unable to make progress against your goals, one of the reasons for this could be that your goals may not be entirely your own. I invite you to have a play with this over the next few weeks and observe what words you use when you think or talk to others about your goals. If you want to make it more fun, team up with a friend and pick up on each others watch words about your goals and desired outcomes.
Feel free to share your views or ask questions by adding a comment to this blog article. I look forward to hearing from you!